Today's Thought (s)

Never ever for the sake of peace and quiet deny your own experience.

Live the life you love.

As you get older, you really just want to be surrounded by good people; people who are good for you, good to you, and good for your soul.

Friday, July 20, 2012

The Case for Civil Dialogue

William Raspberry, award-winning columnist, passed away recently and I was privileged to read one of his last columns, pre-retirement, and though it was written in 2005, his words are so dead-on for today... basically, get over yourself and realize that other people are in the world, and are entitled to their opinions just as you are entitled to yours; and a truly civilized person knows how to agree to disagree without resorting to vitriolic and caustic comments.

Mr. Raspberry said that he found that he often agreed with both sides of an issue and thought that many other people did the same. For instance, he was both pro-life and pro-choice. Perhaps that very dichotomy causes such inner conflict in people, that rather than having a serious discussion with themselves (which is where their real problem lies) they focus outward and go on the attack against those who are against what the person is "supposed" to believe. I found that statement very interesting because just yesterday, when I read of a cop killer likely being sentenced to death, I was very, very glad. But. I generally consider the death penalty legalized murder. I actually stuttered in my steps as I walked across the floor when I realized that conflict. So, we must be wise enough to make situational decisions and not castigate someone else because their version of reality is different from ours.

Human beings are very complex. That's what makes us so very interesting, and the late Rodney King put it so simply and so eloquently when he asked, "Can't we all just get along?"

Saturday, April 28, 2012

http://www.shoedazzle.com/invite/skz1wcsup

I am a handbag maven and a shoe freak. Finding a site that lets you indulge both these characteristics, with some jewelry and lingerie thrown in to boot is fab-u-lous! I have to admit that since I have slim and delicate feet, I must be very selective in which pair of footwear to order, but hey, ninety percent of the fun is in p-e-r-u-s-i-n-g and drooling, right?!  Right now, I am awaiting the arrival of a snazzy, yet chic hat and scarf combo. Huzzah-Huzzah!

Check it out, and find your shoe/bag bliss.  I promise that you will enjoy the experience.

Friday, April 27, 2012

Wednesday, April 18, 2012

Shapewear (Spanx, et al)

How many of you are being squoze to death with Spanx and other manner of the latest torture to our bodies in the quest to appear flawless?  I spent entirely too much money on a pair of Spanx and nearly gave myself a hernia and an appendectomy trying to stuff myself into them. Then, when I was encased like a sausage -- you got it -- other parts of me kinda overflowed, so the whole exercise was pointless. Guess some of us need shapewear that covers like a burkha, huh?  

Well, I have good news! Put on a pair of bike shorts! (Mine are by Champion.) Not only do they comfortably control and smooth out any little imperfections, but they do double duty by preventing chafing of the thighs in hot, humid weather!  Now you can cross the worry about damaging your internal organs off your list.  Oh, joy!

To Dye or Not to Dye...

I had always looked forward to gray hair, and I vowed NEVER would I dye my hair when the lovely gray began to come in. BUT. What I pictured and what actually happened were two entirely different things! The picture in my mind was a sexy, sophisticated, striking stripe of silver-gray strands gracing my head as I continued to strut my stuff, so to speak.  That is not what happened!  These little sprigs of sproingy gray strands appeared.  EEK!  Still, I had that luscious picture in my head, so surely the reality would meet the fantasy, and very soon.  Fast forward...it ain't happened. Not to worry, though. Instead of sexy, sophisticated and striking silver-gray strands, I decided to rock the walk with a bodacious mocha and blonde 'do; but I'm still hopeful, and expect to wake up to the gorgeous gray at any time!

This post was engendered by an article which stated that a large number of women are afraid to let their hair go gray because they will be considered "old," and subsequently be discriminated against in the workplace... it's that school of thought that men with gray hair are distinguished and wise, but women with the same are somehow instantly transported into their dotage. How horrendous that in the year 2012, women are still fighting to be treated with equity in the workplace, especially over something as superficial as hair color. Gloria Steinem, help!  Somebody needs to see the light.  So, ladies, if you don't want to dye your hair, embrace your gray!  

Now, on the other side of the coin, there are some who don't want to be caught even dead (women and men) with gray hair; and there ain't nothin' wrong with that. The issue here, is choice. No one should be afraid of losing their job if she/he doesn't want to subject their bodies to harsh chemicals.  In that same article, a woman was not only told to dye her hair, but to get a "younger" wardrobe. Excuse you! Said woman would probably be very happy to go shopping if the boss was footing the bill, but only for clothing that she liked and chose.  Wonder if he also suggested new and different undergarments since he wanted younger looking. You know what I mean...

As Russell Simmons says:  "Do you."  There was only one of you created, so live your creation.

Sunday, February 5, 2012

Super Bowl Commercials

Commercials airing during the Super Bowl cost an obscene amount of money, but it's the only time that I actually watch the commercials, instead of jumping up and squeezing in some "dit-dit, i.e., load washer, sweep a floor, empty dryer, etc. I think we can watch them all on www.nbc.com.  There are currently three minutes left in the game, and my New England Patriots are leading by two points. This is a nail-biter.  Gotta sign off, so I can pray! Catch you tomorrow.

Friday, December 30, 2011

Welcoming in 2012!

We are granted the chance to begin again every time we greet a new day, and every January 1, we get excited about creating a brand new year! So whether you choose to usher in the new year with good intentions or New Year's Resolutions, know that you have the power for a "do over." So go and do, but make sure that you remember to invest time in "being" as well as "doing."  When you learn how to just "be," you'll find that your doing is much more effective and satisfying.

Tune back in to get the tips and trends for 2012.      

HAPPY NEW YEAR!


Friday, November 18, 2011

Getting Real on Jobs and the Economy

    We are suffering through a terrible economy (tell you something you don't know, right?), and have been for more than a little while. Small businesses are closing because they don't have the traffic and customers to keep the doors open.
    Now, many people chose to delude themselves into thinking that a new president with lofty ideals and more progressive ideas would miraculously restore a robust economy to America overnight.  That would have been an exceptional and welcome turn of events, and I'm sure that President Obama would have been more than pleased to claim the honor of Man of the Hour; but as someone facetiously said, (I'm paraphrasing) Barack Obama is not Jesus Christ and there will be no turning of water into wine.
    The individual who made that statement meant it as an insult, but he spoke truth. Of course the President had never purported to be the Messiah, so he wasn't expecting to perform miracles nor did he promise to do so; and if he had promised such, anyone who believed it should seriously question their grasp on reality.
    Our economy is in the toilet, yes. These are very trying and uncertain times, yes. We do seem to be inching toward the positive side, but oh, so slowly. Unemployment is still at an all time high and those who do have jobs are holding their wallets shut against the day when they, too, might join the unemployment ranks because there is still so much uncertainty in the private sector. I pray that we have seen the worst and a true bounce is on the way very soon.
    Currently, our politicians are the problem rather than the solution because they really don't seem to be concerned about us -- only about their particular ideologies. Ideology can't pay for a cart full of groceries, or pay the gas company to keep the heat and the hot water on. Our representatives act like little children who would choose not to play the basketball game at all rather than share the ball. This partisanship needs to be renamed crapship because it smells to high heaven.  I do believe that the men and women in the House of Representatives are elected to serve the PEOPLE of the United States of America. That means that they are to do their utmost to serve the needs of the country, does it not?  If you don't like what is put forth that will help the American people, what have you proposed, Mr. or Ms. Congressperson? Get it done!  The person who needs a job to put food on the table for his family doesn't care whether a Democrat or Republican is responsible for that job being there.  He's just glad for his children to go to sleep with full bellies.
    Now let's get beyond the politicians:  Manufacturers of products. Do you remember when most of the items we used and owned were made in America? These days, on the rare occasion when I come across such an item, I want to buy it just for that reason.  If American companies would stop shipping jobs overseas, there would not be a job crisis of the current magnitude that we are experiencing today.  Let's support "Made in the USA," and communicate your dissatisfaction to those companies who outsource jobs to other countries.
    It will be challenging, but when you stop buying items that are imported, you will send a message straight to the bottom line, and believe me, the CEOs will sit up and take notice when their cash flow is in play.  We will have gotten their attention, and jobs that rightfully belong to Americans will flow back across the border, forcing the American Nightmare into darkness, as the American Dream re-emerges in the light.